Tinder has the most users, but OKC is a big pool here and critically let's you search instead of just serving profiles up to you.įor the apps that serve up profiles to you, try uninstalling then for a week and then reactivating. You're also a slave to the surfacing algorithm on all the dating apps. Make sure your profile(s) are use specific: one for hookups, one for finding a life partner, one for exploring alt sexuality and furry meetups, whatever. Tinder and Grindr are hookup apps, bumble and coffee meets bagel are a little more dating focused, hinge and OkCupid are where the non-monagamous folks are. Getting a sense for what each platform is 'for' will help you. If you’re tall (above 6’0) have a picture that makes this clear and obvious.ĭo all of those and you should be good to go. We’re all just highly evolved primates at the end of the day.
Ideally this would be you at a beach, with another attractive woman in the picture to trigger the competitive instinct. If you’re in good shape, have a picture of you with a shirt off but once again it’s important this is not a selfie. Pictures of you that clearly depict traveling in exotic destinations, or sailing on a boat can accomplish the same effect. Another way to signal status which is important when you’re competing with a lot of well-off dudes in SF. Have a picture wearing a suit or otherwise dressed up nicely, even if it’s a rare occasion. Take a cute picture with a dog, even if it’s not yours. Foreign-born implicitly signals higher status to most Americans, especially if you’re coming from another developed country. Your profile should emphasize your Australian accent/heritage.
Also, you need to have the right types of pictures to get a psychological advantage. going out to bars, meeting people through hobbies, friends of friends etc) I'm just interested in another perspective and would like to try and figure out whether I'm doing something wrong!ĭating in SF is hard because many younger women are effectively priced out, since the tech industry is dominated by white & Asian males.īut no matter where you are with every app or dating website, it’s just a numbers game. I may have all of this wrong and simply be not attractive enough! And that's fine too.ĭisclaimer - I'm not complaining, and obviously dating apps should supplement your regular social activities (e.g. Would love to hear your insights and experiences. My female roommate gets dozens of likes from men on Hinge a day and simply doesn't have the time / energy to reply to everyone (especially given the long work hours), therefore for some, it might be case of matching with the strongest profiles
Burn out - I think people are starting to get tired of using dating apps and are investing less and less in their matches (not replying, taking weeks to reply, turning off notifications, too many apps to choose from etc).Some reflections / possible reasons for the decline: Finding dating apps very frustrating in SF and have had next to no matches across Hinge, Bumble & Tinder - certainly the opposite of Sydney. 5,9", actively going to the gym, have decent hi-res photos.